Is it possible to find a husband in the internet?
My answer is: it is not so easy, as we’d like, however, it’s possible!
In the rest room in the building of Syntone, we discussed that topic. Just after that discussion those who didn’t take part in that communication, however, found out about it, approached to me. Approached girls: ”Do you really found a husband in the Internet?”, “Do you really believe that it’s possible to find a normal guy there?” so, if such questions exist – I decided to tell my view.
Yes, I found my beloved man on a dating site. Yes, there are lots of idiots on dating sites (sorry for coarseness). However, in my opinion, there are no more of them, than in real life, although, probably, concentration of boobies is higher and it’s necessary to take it into account. I remember, my friends dissuaded me from online dating, who met through a traditional way – and said that I would find there nothing normal. However, I thought that since such a nice and wonderful girl is brought there, then one more nice wonderful person can be brought there. Cause every of us needs for happiness not a mob, but the only one. However, often, girls sorting a pack don’t believe that there are aces in the pack. “Probably, someone dragged them already out” – they think. However, there are aces in every pack, and besides kings and jacks. There are sixes too and task of the internet dating is to sweep them quietly aside and search for a suitable for us man.
Taking into account that I met my husband four years ago, and didn’t keep any record, then it’s difficult for me to recall all details of my experience in numbers. However, I remember very well that before I met him, I had communicated on a site a lot, and dated a lot. Some personal dates didn’t take more than 15 minutes. I went to the cinema very seldom, more often we were in a café or just walked. There is no opportunity to talk to a person, to find out his thoughts – however, walking or get-together in a cozy café give such an opportunity. There were guys who fell in love with me and called to date again, however I wasn’t interested in them – and I didn’t – regretted my time. There were those whom I like, but they didn’t like me. It’s normal. Girls, if you have the same, please, remember – it’s normal – move on. I say I have had a lot of dates – how many of them? Exactly more than twenty dates. And every time when I don’t find a suitable man – I continued searching for him. Therefore, when someone says me that there are no normal men on dating sites, and she checked it dating one man – that cause smile! And one more important moment – I always communicated a lot before date, via the dating site or an instant messenger.
Girls, I wanna emphasize one mote time, it is a very important moment – communicate a lot before a date. That is exactly why communication on a dating site takes a lot of time. It is desirable before a date to find out what a man searches on a dating site. It is really a serious moment: a friend of mine met a guy on a dating site and after a short dialog “Hi – Hi” “let’s date – ok” he went to fetch her. She jumped into the car. Everythinh ended well, however the guy wanted something far from romantic and the following family life. And he insisted on sex in the car at this actual date. Therefore communicate! – do communicate before a date! Find out what he is searching for on the dating site and if that meets your interests. Maybe he is married and wants just sex – there are lots of such men, or maybe he searches for a permanent mistress? Do you need that? If you do, then it’s cool!!!! However, if you don’t – don’t waste your time and find out his aims before a date!
Also, in my opinion, it is important to write detailed information about yourself. When you write about yourself think of the man you want to find on this site. A prince wants a princess – do you have anything he can appreciate? If you search for a guy to go to night clubs and parties, then write that you love clubs. If you think, your future chosen one appreciates woman’s skills to make cosiness, and you cook very well, write about that. Emphasize your strong points, however, don’t exaggerate. If you search for a real person, be real yourself.
Also, I recommend thoroughly selecting photos for your profile, if it is difficult for you – ask for help. A friend of mine – beautiful well-built girl – put a photo where she is among trees and where you can see only her nose. It’s difficult to value her face and figure. Choose the photo which emphasizes your beauty. It’s better to upload more that one photo, moreover, take summer, winter, businesslike ones.
Time! I remember online dating took a lot of time. Therefore, if you intend to find a suitable man, then you should allot 20-30 minutes for that (maybe more). If you are on a site one time per a month, it won’t give a desirable result.
What to say and to talk about? Ask a lot of open questions, which require detailed answer, and can be answered with yes or no. For example: “if you had holiday, where would you spend it?” different men answer differently from “being in front of TV” to “I’d go to a ski resort”. And decide what is more interesting for you. However, don’t judge using the only answer, ask more questions. Discuss famous movies. However, not just “liked” “didn’t like”, but the entire movie. What is especially interesting for you and for him in the movie? Maybe you like the same movie, but you like romantic scenes, and he remembered fights and infightings.
I hope your aim has become clear, before you are on a dating site. So, ask question, I should repeat. What streaks of a man are important for you? Which kind of work? What important and critical for you is , should be asked about.
However, don’t scare him, and don’t make from the chat an interrogation. It’s interesting task to create a pleasant atmosphere and find out everything you want to know, and, at the same time, to tell about yourself. Well, for example:” I watched today a TV_show “…” and got a lot of emotions, and what TV-show you like?” That is: you told about your interest, and create a reason to find out what he likes. Also, you can ask about friends, work, and hobbies. In this way you tell about yourself and about him. Later, you’ll understand how to build dialog: what he likes.
Find out his mood every day. It’s important. If every time it is bad, and everything sucks – you should be careful. Although it happens when a man has an unhappy period in life or, maybe, everything is always bad, all people are bad, so, you should ponder if you need a moaner.
It’s possible to learn to communicate on a dating site. You didn’t succeed with twenty men, but you will succeed with the twenty-first. Dating sites is not a magic wand, however it is a good opportunity to find a man who is searching for a serious relationship. And then there is an interesting task – to find a suitable, and become a suitable for him. Good luck!!!